Obituary and Memorial of the Late Elaine Cartlidge
Elaine passed away peacefully on Wednesday 2nd February 2022 at Tall Oaks Nursing home, Biddulph, aged 82.
The cherished wife of the late Terry, loving mother to Gary and daughter in law Michele, much loved Nanny to Sam, respected sister to Leslie, Susan and the late Shirley.
Elaine will be lovingly remembered and will be sadly missed by everyone who knew her. The funeral was held at Birches Crematorium, Northwich, at 1pm on Monday 14th February 2022.
Elaine was born to Charlotte or Lottie and Leslie Lightfoot in Stoke on Trent May 17th 1939, just months before the outbreak of WW2. She had one Brother, Leslie and two sisters Shirley and Susan. Elaine attended Chell High School and as a teenager enjoyed attending dances where she met Terry when she was 16, although there was a small age gap, Terry being 21, the couple got engaged when Elaine was 17 and married on December 28th 1957, with the beautiful bride being 18, at St Werburgh’s Church, High lane, Burslem. Elaine being flanked by her bridesmaids Shirley and Susan and Terry’s sister Lesley. The young couple started their married life renting accommodation but then in 1961, whilst Elaine was heavily pregnant with Gary they moved into a new build bungalow at 20 Menai Drive, Knypersley which became their home for 58 years.
Elaine worked in several retail settings, firstly working in the fashion department of the iconic Lewis’s Store in Hanley. It wasn’t long before the immaculately turned out Elaine was promoted to a senior position from where she then moved to give her skills to another famous retail establishment, British Home Stores.
With the arrival of Gary, Elaine took on some part time roles so that she could look after her son alongside work. She worked at Taylor’s Supermarket in Biddulph and at Woolworths and was very well known in the town.
Later on as Terry took voluntary redundancy from his work at Siemans, the couple purchased a grocery store in Holden Bridge and a while later remaining in retail they moved onto running a business selling the famous Staffordshire oatcakes. Terry and Elaine took well-earned retirement in 1992. When time allowed Elaine and Terry enjoyed taking holidays to Europe and staid five times in the same hotel in Ibiza. Also going on a couple of cruises and reporting back that they had the ‘time of their lives’
Sadly Elaine had many years of discomfort from her hip. Enduring 20 dislocations and two hip replacements meant that she lived in constant pain, but her determination shone through and she was determined not to allow this to limit her life. She religiously maintained her daily morning strengthening exercises and remained independent. She would use the bus to travel from Biddulph to Congleton each Friday morning to visit Sharon, Michele’s sister’s hair salon at a set time of 11.00 a.m – it was her ‘Independence Day’.
When in her younger years Elaine loved to knit and later to read, always having a pile of novels stacked on the dining room table when Gary visited, with a particular love of period novels for escapism and romance! Despite her hip problems Elaine continued to love to walk, preferring to go alone with time to think quietly about things. Elaine’s life was completed with the arrival of her beloved grandson Sam who quickly became the light of her life. Elaine and Terry looked after Sam from him being 5 months old when Gary and Michele worked. Nanny and Sam quickly bonded and had a very close and wonderful relationship.
Elaine lived for all her family, when her own Mum’s health failed and she went in to care Elaine would visit her every day to make this transition more manageable. She took care of her sister Shirley assisting her in leaving an unhappy marriage and getting her settled in her own home, continuing to be a tremendous support to Shirley as she too had to go into care and then sadly passed away.
The final thoughts for the Eulogy came from Gary, who said that Terry and Elaine were always there for him, especially Elaine who would always reassure Gary that should he ever need to chat about insecurities or problems she would always be there, even as Gary grew up he would come away from this wise counsel feeling twice the person and full of confidence. Elaine would always be able to read Gary like a book, and able to instinctively know when he needed a boost with the words that Gary will always remember
“Stay strong, you have the same fight as I have within myself, go out there and show them Gary’
Elaine spent her final years in Tall Oaks Nursing Home where she remained popular with all the staff. She was recognised as real “Character” She passed away peacefully on the 3rd of February 2022 aged 82.
A remarkable Wife, Mum and Nanny, work colleague and friend Elaine will be so missed by everyone who’s life she enriched.To enjoy the video from our youtube channel please see below. (If you're watching on a phone it's best viewed Landscape).